And don't say you don't do it, because it's a known fact that it happens. It has become a widespread social expectation now, to round up and gossip about others troubles/situations or even contemplate on incidents. One gossip can telephone through countless people and by the time it ends, the legitimacy in the original matter gets utterly edited, replaced with a new story. This matter is serious, and I can say with absolute certainty that families have been stripped of their dignity and pride in the community face due to a couple of 'gossips' that have circulated around. Oh and it's not just women, men have sighed up as well.
It's wrong to gossip! To speculate someone else's matters and than phone up every person you know to discuss it, is (by design) trying to seek pleasure from other people's 'home issues'. It doesn't even have to be problems, it can be anything, from health issues; social issues to the 'did you see what she was wearing' or 'her daughter is 27 and not married'... THIS IS GOSSIP! Here's a fact that anyone who has ever said a ghastly word to a woman should consider (24:23 Yusif Ali)Those who slander chaste women, indiscreet but believing, are cursed in this life and in the Hereafter: for them is a grievous Penalty, Remember this line, memorize it, forever engrave it into your minds. The slander of a girl, young or old is WRONG! For whatever her issues or indecencies, no right has been privileged to you to discredit her, as an alternative; perhaps worry about the females in your family?
You should also remember that Karma plays a enormous role in our life. Allah sees all and hears everything. Whatever you have done or said about someone else, will (by guarantee) come back to you (in this life or hereafter). And it may not be you who is directly affected, but certainly your innocent children might see bad days for your wrong doing (& Vise versa).
So what can you do to shield yourself and impede the chain of gossips? Try to control how you look at your comfortable world. Gossip is fashioned by the need to hear about others, to see how their life differs from yours. Typically it's never good things, and anything good usually never makes it to the telephone. If you are approached with something that can be considered 'gossip', recognize it. Try to stop the conversation or even remind the person speaking of what they are doing. Remember that what you say about others will come back to you. (49:6 Yusif Ali) O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth, lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have done. This line stresses that if someone does come to you with news and you perform 'gossip' unintentionally, you can repent. However remember, that only Allah knows what is truly in your heart. You need to have belief in Islam and if nothing else, remember that Allah is always watching. Also keep in mind that if you're gossiping about someone, chances are; somebody is gossiping about you.
By the way, did you see what she was wearing....?
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